One of the most common questions I get from couples is:
“Should we do a first look or wait for the aisle moment?”
The answer? It truly depends on you—your timeline, your priorities, and what kind of experience you want on your wedding day.
A recent bride-to-be asked me this exact question (hi again! 🫶🏼), and I thought I’d share some of the insight I gave her. She said:
“I’ve been torn about it for a while because having that moment at the aisle feels really special—but getting a lot of the pictures taken before the wedding sounds AMAZING. Do you think it’s worth it? And wouldn’t the lighting be a little harsher earlier in the day?”
Let’s break it all down:
💍 What Is a First Look?
A first look is when the couple sees each other privately before the ceremony. It’s an intimate moment, typically captured just between the two of you (and your photo team, quietly in the background).
🌞 Pros of Doing a First Look
1. More Time for Photos
We get to knock out portraits, wedding party photos, and sometimes even family shots before the ceremony. This frees you up after the ceremony to join cocktail hour, relax, or sneak off for sunset portraits.
2. Calms the Nerves
A first look can be grounding. Seeing your person before the big walk can help melt away jitters and bring you into the moment.
3. More Flexibility in the Timeline
Especially if you have a winter wedding or an early ceremony, daylight can be limited. A first look ensures we have time and good lighting for your photos without rushing.
4. It’s Still Emotional
Trust me—if your partner’s going to cry, they’ll cry at the first look and again at the aisle. The emotion doesn’t get diluted—it just gets amplified with a private moment first.
⛪️ Reasons to Wait for the Aisle
1. Tradition + Anticipation
If you’ve always dreamed of that movie-moment reveal walking down the aisle, then honor that. There’s nothing quite like the build-up and the shared breath everyone holds when that moment happens.
2. Lighting Concerns
You’re right—if we do portraits at high noon or early afternoon, lighting can be a bit harsher. That said, I’m very experienced at working with all kinds of light and scouting shady spots or using backlighting to still get dreamy, flattering images.
3. Shorter Pre-Ceremony Timeline
Opting out of a first look usually means a shorter stretch of time before the ceremony, which may give you a slower-paced morning if that appeals to you.
📝 My Honest Take?
If portraits and having a relaxed timeline matter most to you—a first look is absolutely worth considering.
But if your heart is set on seeing each other for the first time at the altar—then we’ll build your timeline to make the most of post-ceremony light and keep that aisle moment sacred.
Either way, I’ve got you. I’ll work with you to make sure your day flows beautifully, whether you choose to see each other early or wait until the ceremony.
Still deciding? Let’s talk! Every wedding is different, and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer—only what feels right for you. 💛
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